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Your White Privelege, My Microaggressions…or Death

white-people-black-peopleThe term ‘microaggression‘ became my “Word of the Year” last week when I first read it. It perfectly sums up the tiny little peckings I experience daily from people outside of my racial and ethnic group. The awestruck and gratuitous hair touching, the shock at me not being able to name a member of The Beatles (and being unapologetic about it), the questions about fried chicken, and the tip-toeing around conversations about race are all gateway drugs for the microaggressive addiction we have in this country. And today, I read something else that made me believe these microaggressions are mostly due to white privilege. Go figure.

Author Heben Nigatu derives the meaning of the term “microaggression” from Columbia professor Derald Sue. It is the “brief and commonplace daily verbal, behavioral, or environmental indignities, whether intentional or unintentional, that communicate hostile, derogatory, or negative racial slights and insults toward people of color.” This definition is great because it includes accidental racism (you know, like the kind LL Cool J and country singer Brad Paisley recorded a song about) and the racism that happens when your mouth talks before your brain can tell it to shut up because you are in the wrong company.

In other words, microaggressions are what happen in a country that is still struggling to understand and accept the unique contours of a racially diverse environment. One doesn’t have to be racist to exhibit microaggressive behavior. All one has to do is forget that other races deserve the same dignity and respect as one’s own. That seems pretty easy right?

Now, we could simply blame racial insensitivity or a lack of exposure to other racial and ethnic groups as a root cause of our microaggressions. But, that would be too simple (and unnaturally symbiotic). Microaggressions would exist even with increases in interaction between ethnic groups, and racial insensitivity is just a buzzword which means virtually the same thing. Truthfully, white privilege is the only logical root cause of microaggressions between varying racial groups because it sets the standard for what is racially acceptable and what isn’t. Without white superiority – and privilege – there would be no functional yard stick by which to analyze racial groups.

Sadly, there is a flip side to this. While white privilege begets microaggressions, it also can be exploited for those who are aware of its power.

After reading a piece on Medium.com called “When “Life Hacking” Is Really White Privilege” by Jen Dziura, so many things in my life came into alignment. She argues that it isn’t the best thing to pretend that manipulating life “opportunities” for one’s own personal gain is normal or acceptable. Sometimes, stepping ahead in a line at the grocery store or bank, eating or drinking something that doesn’t belong to you, or getting extra amenities at a hotel aren’t just awesome perks of being industrious. You might sometimes be exploiting your white privilege to get something you neither earned nor deserve. And, since other racial and ethnic groups don’t share this ability to simply get things at-will – but instead are punished marginally if they even attempt to – you might actually just be a bigot, or racist.

“It happens all the time that white people claim not to be racist because they didn’t intend to be racist; they weren’t thinking about that at all…But there are many situations in which it is precisely your job to think about that. Nothing induces more rage in others than your taking what you do not deserve and not even noticing.”

See the subtle nuance there? Taking things that no one is using or that haven’t been claimed by anyone yet is still taking things. And, forgetting that white people have a whole lot more access to things to be taken is worth keeping front of mind. Simply misrecognizing one’s own privilege as happenstance is just as dangerous as outright, intentional racism. Got it?

Thinking about this made me remember an issue my husband and I once had at a movie theater in Los Angeles. We bought designated-seat-style tickets to see one of the Harry Potter films. They were really good seats in the center of the theater. And, after stopping to grab a burger and fries, we were running late to the movie. When we got there, a large party – probably about ten or so white kids – was sitting in our row. And, as we walked down the aisle counting the seats, we noticed they were in our seats.

We sat down in the dark theater gesturing to them that they were in our seats. And they simply pretended not to see us. My husband and I are both over six feet tall so they definitely saw us walk in. We could tell they knew something was up from their unnatural prostrate stature (which most people take when they don’t want to see the driver in the next lane over flick them off for bad driving choices). They knew they weren’t in the seats they paid for. But, they kept their heads straight, staring at the movie screen as if we weren’t waving our hands to get their attention.

After minutes of making a semi-silent scene, they finally relented and moved out of our seats. But, here’s the kicker: they were offended by us. One loquacious young lady sitting next to me commented about it the entire movie blaming us for coming late in the first place and implying that we lost the right to the seats we paid for by walking in after the previews.

I was in awe. I wanted to punch her in the throat. And, I was in awe.

Somehow, this white girl and her white friends believed they had some ordained dominion over the entire theater. Anyone not occupying their seat could be subject to losing it in seconds. Why? Because the white kids said so.

Dziura describes a movement beyond this type of behavior as something which “ involves acknowledging structural barriers that allow some people to do this while punishing others for trying. And it involves a healthy discussion of whether we should.

I couldn’t agree more.

Meanwhile, in Black America, this is what happens when you don’t pay your bus fare (CAUTION: This is an extremely difficult thing to watch. I teared up when I saw it).

It’s wonder more of us don’t try to rule the world like white people do, right?

PHOTO CREDIT: Salon

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Jenn M. Jackson is one half of the Water Cooler Convos team. She is a native of Oakland, CA and has resided in sunny SoCal ever since she met her second half, Daren, at USC in 2002. Bringing the bourgie and good measure of the nerdy, she fearlessly writes about politics, pop culture, and whatever other topics in black America have firmly planted a bee in her bonnet.
  • John Henry

    What is even worse is that the police just watched this boy die. They did not try to administer any first aid nor stop the bleeding.

    Just witnessing something like this is enough to cause PTSD. Then you wonder why our youth act out.

    —–
    Sorry I was so devastated by the video is I got sidetracked. But your entire post was on point.

    • http://www.watercoolerconvos.com Jenn M. Jackson

      Thank you so much for commenting/visiting:)

      I had the same thought when I saw it. This happened in broad daylight in front of at least 20 people. You can’t tell me that doesn’t have some systematic impact on the people growing up there. It is severely unfortunate.

  • GreenInOC

    I have so many things I would like to converse with you about regarding this blog post, however after watching that video I can’t. My conversation seems trivial and so stupid. I want to understand, I want to scream, I want to reach out to that boy and comfort him, I want to cry with his mother, I want to stand between he and those officers, I want to know how someone calculated lack of bus fare = death, I want to scream, I want to give up and hide my head in the sand, I want to stop seeing these videos that I can’t get out of my mind and will haunt me forever, I want to be free from the guilt from not wanting to see these images, I want so much and I feel so helpless and I feel so stupid even writing that.