On Shaming Little Black Girls for Their Naturally Coily Hair

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  • Jasmine Warner

    I understand you completely, when are our folk going to cut off these shackles and just embrace themselves and their hair. The elders are still trapped in the warped Euro standard of beauty and some of the ppl our age keep following the crowd so that they won’t be deemed different. Well I’m different and I’m glad to be that way. I have a 4 yr old with hair to the middle of her back and I’m all about low manipulation.

    • CourtneyrrR

      Your daughters hair is like that because you know what you are doing. Keep it up.:)

  • Mary Burrell

    This needs to stop it’s just goes to show how enslaved our minds still are. The comments on different blog post about Beyonce and Jay -Z daughter Blue Ivy is so foul, people don’t need to traumatize their youngsters about their hair. Is this ever going to end?

    • truthseeker2436577@yahoo.com

      You’re absolutely right Sister.

      It is a shame that some people want to disrespect a child. Blue Ivy is a precious child. Natural hair is very beautiful too. I hope that the self hatred and the bashing end, but we have to keep on fighting for the truth. The only way to stop evil is to promote good and to fight evil directly. Fundamentally, we embrace the essence of our black being.

      • Mary Burrell

        @truthseeker2436577: Peace and blessings to you brother

        • truthseeker2436577@yahoo.com

          Thank you Sister. I appreciate your great words. Peace and Blessings to you also.

    • CourtneyrrR

      I agree. Nothing was remotely wrong with precious Blue Ivy’s hair. Im so glad Beyonce is kind of like doing her own thing when concerning her daughter. No matter how ridiculous society is when it comes to black girls that have beautiful ,natural coiled hair. Their is a way a way to take care of it and comb it.The fact that she lets it grow wild, sometimes comb it into a certain style etc suggests to me that she knows what she is doing. The sad thing is, many who are talking, are the very ones baldheaded.Let this little girl and all black girls live with their hair. smh. It’s a shame.

      • truthseeker2436577@yahoo.com

        Let people live is a great philosophy that is relevant to this situation. Each person’s hair will be different and Blue Ivy’s human value should be respected.

  • eve

    Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!!!

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  • Tonididitonem

    This is sooooo amazing!!! I’ve recently gone natural and I call myself the grown up blue ivy. Lol and I’ve made up my mind that when I have little girls I’ll let them wear their hair naturally without stress and chemicals.

  • wdshn

    Ha, Ha, Ha, I am amused. The question is “to comb or not to comb?” This whole discussion is not about self-hatred, or shame. It is about viewing a hair comb (even a wide-toothed one) as your enemy. You protest too much, so I can tell some people have an issue, not with shame, but with combing. African Americans who donned the afros of the ’60s were standing up for their pride in their wonderful, glorious, meticulously groomed, natural hair. The original natural hairstyles (by the way, have you examined real African women’s styles?) always reflected purposeful planning and neat execution. So another concept here is the definition of purposefully, planned, orderly neatness. Apparently there is a cultural divide, with one group looking for their idea of planned and clearly defined neatness and the other camp flaunting randomness. The second camp is as aggressive in their demanding that only chaotic, random, free-for-all hairstyles that have never been touched by a comb be the new standard, as the groomed neatness camp is in demanding that the others “do something” with their hair. However, the concept in the beginning of the pride movement was, and still is neatness, and a well-coiffed head of hair was always evenly rounded and radiant. The settling point is your relationship with a hair comb and brush, which the new naturals think of as a weapon of destruction and a mangler of the inner spirit and soul. To put it simply, our hair is beautiful. We love the versatility of our hair. All hair styles are available to us. But the main idea here is just that, style. Many people just prefer a hairstyle, even it is on a baby or young child, that looks like it was planned, lovingly done, and above all, neat! The word they are looking for is unkempt. Those kids’ hair just looks unkempt and their appearance is an attention getting device to promote the publicity of their parents. What would happen if anyone said, “I don’t like the way you let your child’s hair go, so I won’t be buying your records or watching your movies until you take your kid out of the public view?”, because really I am too mature for this foolish drama and I can tell this hair thingy is all about attention-seeking parents who care more about what the public thinks and is watching than their child.