A Word of Thanks to the Black Men Who Taught Me Self-Hate

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  • Ms.

    That was deep, and well-written. I don’t date black males myself. Yeah, they put me through hell growing up too. The behaviors I saw in the black male early in life turned me to dealing with them. Their behaviors, I’m sad to say, are part of the main reason why they are being executed daily in the streets by these white cops. Black men get smart-mouthed and sassy with police authority, and they get their heads blown off for their troubles. BM cannot get along with anyone on the planet, including other BM. It’s just a fact. They are the smallest minority in the country and I strongly suspect their numbers to decline even further in the coming years. If the black man was a nicer person, he wouldn’t be in this situation.

    • Be careful with your language. Indicting the entirety of black men is not only offensive, but it is also erroneous. If your perception of black men is that they just “don’t get along” with anybody and are somehow worthy of getting killed because of how one might speak to a police officer, you seriously need to take some time to evaluate the source of your opinions. I understand that you’ve been treated badly by black men in your life, and I sympathize with that. But there is a way to express your very valid feelings without crucifying all black men.

      • Freed Slave

        Why does she have to be careful? That’s just the point, the black man cares about offending anyone or anything he sees fit. Your comment wreaks of a weak black male.

        • She needs to be careful because indicting the entirety of any body is just reinscribing prejudicial thinking that has surely be placed onto you to someone else. Not all black men are the same. That should be obvious. And if you think otherwise, you should have your head examined.

          This of course is not to cape for those that do dirt. There are plenty of black men that do wrong things. Just like there are plenty of humans that do the wrong thing. But ignorant generalizations don’t help anybody.

          • Freed Slave

            No not all men are the same, but all men are still men. God bless!

      • Step Daddy

        She is damaged goods, she is useless to any man ESPECIALLY a Black Man

    • Freed Slave

      I co-sign 1000%! I finally accepted black males for what they are and avoid them at all costs. Never been more at peace!!!

      • Step Daddy

        You will be back

    • Step Daddy

      Would you feel this way if your father, uncle, brother, cousin, husband, etc were killed by a racist white cop?? Cops are ALSO killing Black Women as well so I wouldn’t talk if I were you. Korryn Gains was talkig smart to the cops & look how they did her, they blew her away. So you need to watch what you say about Black Men because without Black Men you wouldn’t even be here.

  • Step Daddy

    Black women love playing the victim role

  • Wow! Reading this made my mouth drop and eyes wide. Crazy that people can be that cruel. I appreciate you sharing your story. I think just other people reading this helps. I also appreciate that you turned this into compassion, self care and strength. One personal lesson I learned is that black pain does not always come directly from white sources.